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Stress By Dumping Limiting Beliefs
- by Chris Green
(c) Chris Green - All Rights reserved
http://www.conqueringstress.com
Throughout your life, you have formed a set of values and
meanings to make sense of the world you live in. These
values and meanings constitute your beliefs and your beliefs
are what you hold to be true about life. Your beliefs are at
the core of your existence and you wouldn't be the person
you are now without them.
Beliefs are very important. The only reason you act and
behave the way you do is because of your beliefs. For
example, people who believe in God will act in a way
conducive with their belief - praying or going to church for
example. If you don't believe in a God, it is very unlikely
you'll pray to one.
This pattern follows in most areas of our lives and here are
three very powerful beliefs that can hurt you and spoil your
quality of life. They are beliefs common to stress, anxiety
and depression and they underpin these illnesses. Do you
hold any or all of the following beliefs:
1. I'm helpless and hopeless. I can't do anything, things
are totally beyond my control and there's no point in trying
to do anything about it because nothing I do ever works.
This is a very powerful and limiting belief. If you believe
that you are helpless, then you will act accordingly because
you won't take action to change things. Why would you if you
strongly believe it is a hopeless cause? Helplessness is
learned and it is also flawed. Many people are blind to the
power they possess and a belief in helplessness keeps them
in the dark. But just as helplessness is learned, it can be
unlearned.
2. Nobody loves me. I'm an effort to be with, I bore people
and I never have anything interesting to say. It's much
better if I stay alone and don't inflict myself on others
and spoil their happiness. OK, it was very hard for me to
write the last few lines because they're exactly what
someone I loved dearly said to me on many occasions when we
were due to socialize with friends. Hearing such words cuts
you to ribbons, my word it is such a destructive belief. If
you believe this, you will act accordingly by isolating
yourself from others. You'll find excuses so you don't have
to go out and when you do, you will sit in silence and try
to melt into the background. And as you won't be engaging
with others, this belief will be re-enforced. Another
aspect: people who believe this will put themselves down
when others question them. So, someone says "you're quiet
tonight, are you OK?" Will get a "well, that's me, I haven't
really got anything interesting to say so I'll keep quiet
and not bore anyone." Honestly, I've seen this happen many
times. Even when they've been loved, even when they've had
family and friends who loved them and enjoyed their company,
this belief blinded them to all of it. Can you see how the
belief comes first no matter what is happening in reality?
In other words, it is THE BELIEF causing the harm, not
others. Not family, not friends, but the belief and if you
strongly believe this, nothing will convince you otherwise
until you start to question and test this belief.
3. Finally, perhaps the most limiting belief of all. Be
honest with me here when I ask: Do you believe it is wrong
to be blissfully happy? The obvious immediate reaction is
"yes, of course!". But stop for a second because this is
important. Very few people truly believe this. They see
others struggle in life and believe that it is wrong to be
happy while others suffer. Feeling happy makes them feel
guilty. Also, you may hold a deep-seated belief that there
has to be suffering in life, that somehow, suffering brings
enlightenment. If you are happy, then you're selfish and
this is wrong because the happiness of others comes before
yours and you must sacrifice your happiness for the greater
good. But you have a right enjoy a happy life. There is no
value in suffering and there is nothing to feel guilty about
in being happy. Believing otherwise will mean you will act
in a way that spoils happiness and continually robs it from
you.
Please examine the beliefs you hold. Question their validity
and if they're making you stressed, anxious or depressed,
then please understand they can be unlearned and replaced
with better ones.
Until next time.
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"Conquering Stress", the internationally acclaimed program
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